The 12 Feminine Principles
MOVING FROM SURVIVAL TO JOY
Many women arrive in my work exhausted, tense, and overwhelmed, not because they are broken, but because they have been living too long in a system that rewards being busy, pushing, coping, and holding it all together. Each of my 12 Feminine Principles dissolves a specific form of stress held in the body. As you read, notice where you recognise yourself and feel what softening might be possible.
1. REST
Drop into stillness like winter fields
You may currently feel:
​– Always slightly wired, even when tired
– Unable to fully switch off
– Guilty when you stop
– Sleep that never quite restores you​
​When Rest is embodied:
​Your shoulders drop.
Your breath deepens.
Your nervous system finally stands down from alert mode.
You feel safe enough to pause and life doesn’t collapse.
It reorganises itself around you.
2. RHYTHM
Honour your energy rhythms just like the tides
You may currently feel:
– Frustrated with inconsistent energy
– Ashamed of needing downtime
– Anxious when motivation dips
– Pressured to keep producing
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When Rhythm is embodied:
You stop fighting your own nature.
Low-energy days become sacred instead of scary.
High-energy days become joyful instead of draining.
Relief replaces self-judgement.
3. RECEPTIVITY
Fill your cup, just as the flower opens to receive the sunlight
You may currently feel:
– Over-giving
– Emotionally depleted
– Unable to ask for support
– Carrying everything alone
When Receptivity is embodied:
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Your chest softens.
Your hands open.
You allow yourself to be met.
Support arrives.
Love lands.
Your body stops bracing.
4. BOUNDARIES
Protect yourself like the bark of a tree
You may currently feel:
– Resentful but saying yes anyway
– Drained by others’ needs
– Tense before interactions
– Afraid of disappointing people
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When Boundaries are embodied:
Your spine straightens.
Your belly relaxes.
Your yes and no feel clean.
You feel safe inside your own life.
5. SENSITIVITY
Protect your tenderness just as the oyster holds the pearl
You may currently feel:
– Emotionally overwhelmed
– Ashamed of tears or reactions
– Numbing out to cope
– Confused by your own feelings
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When Sensitivity is embodied:
Emotions move through you instead of flooding you.
You feel rather than collapse.
Your body becomes a friend again.
Depth turns into wisdom, not pain.
6. EMBODIMENT
Ground your life force, just as the hearth contains the fire
You may currently feel:
– Living in your head
– Disconnected from your body
– Anxious without knowing why
– Tired but wired
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When Embodiment is embodied:
Your energy drops down.
Warmth returns to your body.
You feel grounded, present, real.
Your body becomes home again.
7. PRESENCE
Be as still and present as the forest
You may currently feel:
– Racing thoughts
– Constant distraction
– Anxiety about the future
– Difficulty enjoying anything
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When Presence is embodied:
Time slows.
Your breath deepens.
Moments become enough.
The noise fades.
You feel held by now.
8. INTUITION
Trust your deep inner knowing, like the owl in the darkness of night
You may currently feel:
– Stuck in indecision
– Doubting yourself
– Seeking reassurance
– Afraid of getting it wrong
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When Intuition is embodied:
Clarity lands in the body first.
Choices feel calm and clean.
Trust replaces overthinking.
You stop outsourcing your authority.
9. FLOW
Loosen your grip on life, just like the river
You may currently feel:
– Pushing constantly
– Forcing outcomes
– Exhausted by effort
– Frustrated by resistance
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When Flow is embodied:
You soften.
You release control.
Life begins to move again.
Ease replaces strain.
10. ALIGNMENT
Cultivate clarity through inner knowing, like migrating birds
You may currently feel:
– Pulled in too many directions
– Scattered
– Leaking energy
– Unsure what really matters
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When Alignment is embodied:
Your body relaxes because it knows where it’s going.
Your choices simplify.
Your energy returns.
Clarity becomes nourishing.
11. GRACE
Cultivate tenderness toward yourself, like soft rain falling
You may currently feel:
– Harsh with yourself
– Never doing enough
– Ashamed of rest
– Afraid of failure
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When Grace is embodied:
The inner critic softens.
Your system stops defending.
You forgive yourself for being human.
Peace becomes possible.
12. SOUL CALLING
Tune into the blueprint you arrived with, like a seed carrying unique gifts
You may currently feel:
– Restless
– Disconnected
– Numb
– Questioning the point of it all
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When Soul Calling is embodied:
Meaning returns.
A quiet excitement awakens.
Life feels purposeful again.
You remember who you are.
THE DEEP TRUTH
Women don’t need more fixing. They need release. They need safety. They need permission to soften. These principles do not add more to your life, they remove what never belonged there.